Indulgence
An 8 week digital immersion on building a fireproof relationship
ARE YOU READY to create a fireproof relationship?
light the spark you long for, re-ignite the fires of intimacy, create an inferno of passion.
Indulgence is a course focusing on finding your deepest self all the while deepening in connection. This is your chance TO create intimate union with others, a sense of self-love, and begin building the kind of connection you've been yearning for.
Love shouldn't be a mystery
You don’t fall into love. You co-create it with some one else. Conscious connection requires effort. It is an act of divine surrender and impassioned will.
the wound is created in relationship and it can be healed there too. each one of us feels a deep need to belong--to love and be loved. yet we often feel alone and lonely. our connections struggle to ignite, they burn out too quickly, we lose the original spark, or they leave us gutted by their inferno.
love is a skill that we learn as we go. its about cultivating the inner resources of authenticity, imagination, experiment and risk. it requires us to stop playing it safe.
Many people imagine that love should just happen. Sadly this is not the case. It’s not natural. Why? Because WE AREN’T NATURAL! We have been so conditioned out of our instincts, our connection to self and to others, that when we get together we have no clue how to behave.
We end up looking like domesticated lions in a zoo; prowling around, waiting for a zookeeper to toss us dinner. Warming up microwaved interpretations of what love should be and what we think we deserve.
What is so deeply needed is to get out of our comfort zones and place ourselves into an experience where we must confront the edges of wildness. Conscious relating exists to practice being natural again.
Building or maintaining new relationships?
Knowing what you want and asking for it?
Experiencing deep intimacy and eroticism?
Committing in relationship?
Over-reliance on external validation?
Lack of authenticity or being able to fully be your self?
Setting boundaries or giving a clear “Yes" and “No”
Needing to be right at the cost of connection?
Struggling to believe that you’ll ever love or love again?
Being consumed with others liking you?
Attraction to unavailability?
Knowing or naming your emotions?
Trusting your self to make the right decision?
Rigid expectations of yourself and others?
People pleasing?
Drawing boundaries with others?
Ending unhealthy connections?
Do you have difficulty with...
4 Reasons Relationships Fail
#2
empathy & validation
We know when we don't feel corresponded to or
invalidated. But often we don't know how to truly leave another feeling heard in meaningful ways with any consistency. It's easy to feel insufficient in truly getting another's world, or as though we can deeply know someone.
#1
authentic
expression
So much of relating is done blindly. We are taught to suppress and repress ourself in order to belong; to cut away the things that others will not find acceptable. When we limit our authentic expression we cease to communicate in meaningful ways and lose connection.
#3
curiosity & Imagination
You will cease to pay attention to that which you are not curious about. The inability to approach relationships with imagination leaves us with few possibilities and stuck in rigid black and white confines. When we don't inhabit a place of playfulness, imagination, and risk, we become emaciated.
#4
Eroticism & Intimacy
For many individuals and most couplings, SEX is where relationships die. Every time. Too much. Not enough. Shame. Guilt. Trauma. Or simply a lack of intimate connection. We fail to experience one another in ways that articulate our deep desires.
LEARN HOW TO EXPERIENCE GREATER INTIMACY, DEEPER COMMUNICATION, AND MORE CREATIVITY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS.
INDULGENCE IS DESIGNED TO TEACH YOU HOW TO BE A CONSCIOUS SELF IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
Learn to express yourself...
- Learn to identify and name your own emotions, needs and desires.
- Deeply connect with your personal story and history as a path to move into a new future.
- Grow in your ability to accept yourself and authentically show up in relationships.
You make sense...
- Discover new strategies to regulate your emotions while navigating difficult topics.
- Learn validation techniques to enhance meaning and deeper connection.
- Practice getting comfortable with sharing your needs while understanding another's "world",
IN THIS PROGRAM YOU WILL LEARN THAT LOVE DOESN'T HAPPEN HAPHAZARDLY...IT TAKES DEEP INTENTION
Possibility starts with curiosity...
- Find out what makes you drawn to others in relationships.
- .Uncover what makes you come alive and vibrant.
- Lean into creating more opportunities for expansion and expression in your relationships.
Heating up the bedrooom by healing our shame...
- Learn to safely communicate your fantasies and curiosities with your partner.
- Discover how to deal with past pain and shame connected to your sexuality.
- Understand how to integrate your identity and
sexual identity.
What people are saying...
Working with Rainier & Kristi changed my life. They will always be in our heart...Thank you for helping me in the process of discovering myself. ..
Thomas & Evalyn
These two do a wonderful job peeling back the onion of relationship from a very personal place with real world experience shared between two lovers and partners...
DJ Teak
What a beautiful couple sharing intimate and important, real life stuff. The authenticty and integrity of their values and how they have gotten here was felt to my core. Huge takeaways to incoporate into my life!
Dusty Kal
WHAT YOU'LL GET BY JOINING:
- 8 on demand video teachings with rainier & Kristi
- 4 live Group trainings and Q&A
- Invitation to members only voxer stream
- check in and feedback from rainier and kristi
- 2 opportunities for 1x1 mentorship available
- transformation...
Indulgence Week by Week
Week 1
Discovering how your ROLE in relationships keeps you from experiencing the love you desire. You will unpack your history and open yourself up to "WAKING-UP" to the person you have been in connection to the person you want to be and attract.
Week 2
Knowing yourSELF takes time. You will slow down enough to experience your inner dialogue, identify how your body houses emotions and makes interpretations based on the past. Learning your vulnerability factors and communicating your needs, will help you connect more authentically.
Week 3
You know the feeling when you are SEEN and HEARD in relationships. And it feels so good! Often our relationships become a barren land of invalidation and ignorance. Time to learn the skills of tuning-in, stepping up, and slowing down. The richness of relationship comes with the art of noticing.
Week 4
"Sliding door" moments. These are the places in life where you will learn to lean into paying attention to your relationships and what will enhance connection. Finding the antidote to our unconscious negative behaviors and practicing them using skillful repetition and awareness.
Indulgence Week by Week
Week 5
Our own insecurities and fear can lock us out of the love we desire. When resentments pile up or hidden truths are unexpressed we are no longer available for honest and curious connection. Learning to take responsibility for our choices opens us up for "imagining " a new future.
Week 6
After addressing your insecurities and unacknowledged shadows, we are now able to enter into a journey of openness based on deep interest and curiosity. Digging deeper in the art of playfulness. Tools to help you participate in your relationship not to observe.
Week 7
Sex begins with intimacy. Having intimate knowledge of yourself. Knowing who you are as a sexual being. Identifying your desires, needs and wants. Discovering how past experiences or "programming" has hindered your ability to be a fully sexual being.
Week 8
Integrate your personal identity with your sexual identity. Expressing your curiosities, fantasies and places you want to explore. Accepting yourself and your partner as fully alive and open to intimate conversations.
Indulgence is more than a program-it's a way of life.
Indulgence is created to help you design the kind of relationships that bring you vitality and joy. Rainier Wylde and Kristi Born are dedicated to bring you more than steps to a finding yourSELF and vibrant connections but a way of being. Laying down the old stories and identifying the obstacles that keep many from living exuberantly. This digital emersion is an "all in" approach with exclusive content and practical skills taught each week. Repetition and intention create new pathways for growth and expansion.
*Once you join you'll have access to a private Voxer group of like-minded individuals who are supportive.
No matter what your relationship status, you will benefit uncovering your relational patterns, communicating your needs, expressing your desires, and find healing from the past. You will begin to step into the future with new found curiosity and enthusiasm. Designing the kind of relationship you want!
About Your Hosts:
Kristi Born, is a practicing Marriage & Family Therapist and graduate school professor who teaches courses on Human Sexuality and Couples & Family Therapy Techniques. Rainier Wylde holds a Masters degree in psychology and is a writer, coach, and the author of "As You Are," a book of meditations on the connection between self and other.
They are a married couple dedicated to pulling back the curtains on the modern landscape of love. Together they host the celebrated podcast "Love Like Hell," where they use riveting storytelling to talk about and teach through relational principles. They have mentored many couples and individuals to bring deep freedom and lasting change.
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